Be the jeweler of your own life, because you may not get this chance again

 अपने जीवन के जौहरी स्वयं ही बने।

क्या पता फिर ये मौका मिले ना मिले।

कितनी नरकों में भटके फिरे थे जी हम। 

जब ये तेरा अंश मिला, मारे फिरते थे हम। 

देव बन भी गए तो तरसते थे हम। 

एक बार तो मानव का मौका मिले।

अपने जीवन के जौहरी स्वयं ही बने। 

क्या पता फिर यह मौका मिले ना मिले।

आत्मज्ञानी बने, धर्मदाता बने। खुद में देखे प्रभु और विधाता बने।

 जैन दर्शन का हमको खजाना मिला। साधु संतों का हमको समागम मिला। 

अब तो आत्मा का कल्याण पल पल करे।

अपने जीवन के जौहरी स्वयं ही बने। 

क्या पता फिर ये मौका मिले ना मिले।

हम किसी के नहीं, कोई हमारा नहीं। तन भी अपना नहीं, कोई सहारा नहीं। 

आत्मा है अकेली, अकेला सफर। 

कर्म जैसे करोगे, वैसी डगर। समता भावों से जीवन सुहाना बने।

अपने जीवन के जौहरी स्वयं ही बने। 

क्या पता फिर ये मौका मिले ना मिले।

पर पदार्थों से परिचय बहुत हो गया। जाग जाओ रे चेतन, समय हो गया। 

मौका मिल ही गया है तो खोना नहीं। चार दिन का सफर है जी, सोना नहीं। कर्म शत्रु को जीते, महावीर बने।

अपने जीवन के जौहरी स्वयं ही बने। 

क्या पता फिर ये मौका मिले ना मिले।

wonderful stavan from gurudev: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZFOZrHLDn4&t=190s

ना चाहूं आपसे स्वामी, कि मेरा काम कर देना

ना चाहूं आपसे स्वामी, कि मेरा काम कर देना

ना चाहूं आपसे स्वामी, कि मेरा काम कर देना

पर शुभ काम कर पाऊं, यही बल प्रेरणा देना

पर शुभ काम कर पाऊं, यही बल प्रेरणा देना

हजारों विघ्न बाधाएं उपस्थित हों परंतु मैं

उपस्थित हों परंतु मैं

कभी होऊं नहीं विचलित

वही बल प्रेरणा देना

ना चाहूं आपसे स्वामी, कि मेरा काम कर देना

पर शुभ काम कर पाऊं, यही बल प्रेरणा देना

Direct link to the Stavan: https://youtu.be/UtijoRa6vwI?t=3324

Some things i wish I practiced more with my kids

1. Remind myself that they are kids **area i need to improve the most

2. Give them the FREEDOM they need to apply Judgement, Creative thinking...

3. Celebrate their Decisions

4. Support them wholeheartedly in their Actions and Help them to reason with First Principles

Use Badges, Praises, Show them their Streak of Good work, Play with them are some ways to show them in Action.

Work with them to understand - how they feel when they realize they made a mistake

**Random thoughts... still in progress

Decision Making | Judgement | Creative Thinking

 Decision Making / Judgement / Creative Thinking will continue to be a Key and this is what separates us from other species.

"When it comes from Within"

 "When it comes from Within" - you do not count TIME and thats the secret to happiness.

My learnings with my wonderful kids

1. Work with them to do activities that "Slows them down", They are full of enegy and you have less. This helps with the balance.

e.g.: Drawing, Music, Lego, Reading Books

2. Be Part of their activity by spending time with them, not just instructing them. Be a Friend, Push them - Trust me they are ready to learn... do not take their first NO, find the reason - Fix it and then retry. Works like a charm

3. Make them own their decisions, Punishment if at all should be more time bound - this will help them value time. 1) my favorite : You can read a book for 10 mins or 30 mins of Do NOTHING.

4. We have a rule in our Home, If you want a reward, Good work needs to be done.

No work, No Rewards

5. Play some physical/home based game every week with them

6. We spend the night Being grateful for our life/bhagwanji and reading a wonderful story together.

As they become more Independent - Life becomes easier...

Has it worked all the time, NO - you adjust adapt as per your Kid.

Every Kid is different

7. Make sure their answers, their behaviors, their actions are a result of multiple perspectives, so that they can reason well, understand well and be full of gratitude towards life and the blessings.

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As Parents

- be Truthful/Genuine

- if you do not know something - say clearly you do not know.

- Your Kids are you Mirror - its for you to Notice it and change

---more to write in an expanded post later--

What are your key learnings?

Paryushan

The only festival is the world which is about going back to basics, Minimalism, doing more with less, Self Control, Eat less (a lot of fasting)

Controlling your desires (all your senses) and focussing on improving self by trying to experience yourself using Samayik and Pratikraman.

Asking for forgiveness and forgetting others though all mind, words, body (मन से, वचन से, काया से मिच्छामी दुक़द्दम)! Making yourself Judgement FREE and hopefully extend the same to rest of your lives.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paryushana